Memories flash in our mind at the most unexpected times. I’m enjoying one right now of my daughter as a tiny girl. She has always held herself with such incredible posture.
The word “slump” was not in her physical dictionary. From a very early age, she has held herself with such dignity and grace. The physical manifestation of her spirit is represented in her posture.
In a recent conversation, my sacred curiosity was once again ignited around the concept of posture. Posture has a complex list of definitions around the way we hold ourselves. Whether that be in our attitudes, in our bodies, inside a corporation, in our minds, with relationships, spiritually, in public or private, and even politically. Our posture speaks volumes.
Consider for a moment becoming conscious of the postures we are currently holding. We might find ourselves arrogantly posturing at work to intimidate or impress. We could discover a demanding posture with our children in order to control. We might be exposed to our selfish posture with our spouse to manipulate or demand. If we are brave enough to listen, our posture speaks volumes.
My curiosity leads me to consider the ways that we posture our spirits, towards God and others. It seems, in religion, in churches, and even in our own hearts, there is a lot of defensive posturing. In a moment of real honesty, most of us would admit that we find ourselves feeling defensive against God, against religion, against religious people, and even against our own inclination towards the ambiguous and mysterious nature of spirituality.
Interestingly, defensive postures often drive us to “dig our heels in,” “stand strong,” or “not lose ground.” There is a static nature to defensive posturing. It seems to be rooted in this firm idea about claiming something that we perceive to be ours.
The space we claim might be in regards to spirituality, but it might also be in our job, with our marriage, in politics, with our kids, or in our community. If we have a belief that something is”ours”, we will fight to the end to keep it, to guard it, and to preserve it. When we work so hard to defend our current territory, we cannot move without the intense perception of failure.
The unfortunate truth about defensive posturing is that is always ends with a win/lose scenario. In sports that is usually the whole point, but in life it is very limiting. A very clear definition of a life in a “slump” is one that cannot or will not move. If any movement brings failure, then your only choice from a defensive posture is to “slump.”
But, what if movement isn’t failure? What if recycling our defensive posture gave us access to more? What if changing our posture could change our life?
Consider the alternative of an offensive posture. This posture seems to be less rigid, less static, and far more fluid. An offensive posture seems to have very active energy attached to it.
As we move closer to an offensive posture, there seems to be endless possibilities. There is freedom to move, to give, to love, to rest, to explore, to play, to serve, and to create in every area of our lives. There is an abundance of forward movement available to us in an offensive posture.
Stop for just a minute, take a deep breath, and consider your current posture. What does your posture speak to the world? What could a shift in your posture make available to you? Our posture speaks volumes!